The Heart of Faith Journey

In this blog post, I’m sharing my experience of becoming the matriarch of my immediate family at such a young age. I’ll discuss the ups and downs that come with it and, most importantly, how I’m growing through it all.

My Story of Loss and Grace

I believe in being open about my struggles because it’s part of my calling from God. How can I truly share His grace and glory if I don’t have my own stories to tell? In my very first post, I talked about the journey that brought me to Christ, including the heartbreaking losses I’ve faced: my two brothers, who were my only siblings, caught up in the prison system; the loss of my mother; the pain of losing an unborn child; and now, the recent passing of my grandmother. Each of these experiences has shaped me and strengthened my faith.

Awakening to Responsibility

My grandmother started a very small lineage of her own, having only my mom, who in turn had my brothers and just one daughter…me. After her passing, I remember my husband looking at me and saying, “Babe, you’re the matriarch of the family now.” Those words hit me hard, and I broke down in tears because I hadn’t even thought about that responsibility. But after the tears, something shifted within me. I felt a spiritual, mental, and emotional awakening, as if God was urging me to rise up and keep moving forward and go higher in ALL aspects of my life. Most importantly to become the woman he’s calling me to be.

As a kid, I always had big dreams and goals, but everything changed in that moment. I realized it was beyond my wants and dreams. I have to break the generational curses that have affected my family. Now that I have a daughter, I feel a strong responsibility to create a better future for her and to set a positive example. Those thoughts gave me the strength I needed and really lifted me up.

Breaking the Chains: Overcoming Generational Curses

Some might ask, what exactly are generational curses? One definition describes them as patterns of negative behaviors, toxic traits, or traumatic experiences that get passed down through families over time. The Holy Bible offers another perspective, suggesting that the consequences of sin and disobedience can be inherited, affecting future generations.

But no matter how you define it, I’m committed to breaking these cycles. I want to be the one to say, “It ends with me.”

Transforming My Mindset

So, how am I working to break these generational curses? It all starts with a shift in my mindset. I realized that all the stagnation inside me was holding me back, and I asked God to release it. I prayed for boldness, forgiveness, and prosperity, along with the drive to work hard in everything He calls me to do. I pray for JESUS to remove all traits that has been passed to me that God doesn’t want me to have. I also sought the ability to support my husband, both spiritually and financially, so the burden doesn’t fall solely on him.

I want to be there for my brothers when they come home and lift some burdens off them and ensure I can take care of my father as he ages. Most importantly, I prayed for my daughter, to make her life easier than mine and to protect her from the struggles I faced, as well as those my grandchildren and great grandchildren might encounter. I asked God for a long life, free from the consequences of my past mistakes, and for a willing and humble spirit to walk in true obedience. Those prayers are my way of actively fighting against those curses.

Answering the Call: Committing to Higher Level of Spiritual Obedience

Because of the challenges my family has faced, I realize that God is calling me to a higher level of obedience. I’m taking my spiritual journey more seriously now. While I may not be fully consistent with my prayers and studies yet, I’m actively working on my heart and mindset. I’m paying closer attention to how I treat others and how I react when things don’t go my way.

I’m also prioritizing my peace and my family in a whole new way. I refuse to settle for anything less in my life, God wants us to embrace all that he has in store for us. Instead, I’m choosing to love my family more deeply and intentionally. This journey is all about growth and making positive changes, and I’m dedicated to embracing it.

I thought this mindset happened instantly, but I’ve come to realized that everything God has taken me through was preparing me for this moment in my life, to step into the role of matriarch and create positive change for my family. I hope that by sharing my story, I can encourage other women in their journeys as daughters, mothers, and grandmothers.

Three Ways to Break Generational Curses

I usually share a variety of ways to get through tough times, but today I want to focus on three key steps that are helping  me as I continue to grow beacuse I am still growing and learning.

1. Pray Against the Enemy’s Attacks: Start by praying against any attacks from the enemy. If you notice patterns that have been present in your family, acknowledge them and commit to breaking that cycle. Ask God for the strength and willingness to make a change. Pray for wisdom to overcome them.

2. Educate Your Family: Talk to your family about generational curses. Being open about these issues helps everyone recognize them and work together to keep them from coming back.

3. Lead by Example: Show your family what it looks like to break free from these cycles. Live out the changes you want to see and demonstrate resilience, love, and growth. When they see you embracing these values, it can inspire them to do the same.

James 5:16

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”